A SCREAMING Easy Way To Be Happy Now...{Part 2 Of The Screaming Happy Series}

"A SCREAMING Easy Way To Be Happy Now!" Series~Part 2
(scroll down to read Part 1)
By: Meme Estes, Life Coach/Mentor
ascreaminggoodlife@gmail.com

~Feelings-Part 2~


Okay, on Tuesday we talked about our feelings. Feelings play a BIG part in how we see our life and this world. We often think feelings are not controllable. But as I discussed in Part 1, they are very controllable and easier to change than you would think. We will be continuing today on the same topic, because we need to "cement" this in our brains before moving on to the rest of the series. If we can get a hold on our thoughts and feelings, the rest is a cakewalk! So put your thinking caps on...Here we go!

Remember that feelings are not the first thing that happens in our brains. It is actually our thoughts that come first. You have a thought and then a feeling emerges from that thought. That feeling then pushes you to do an action. And that action is then the result of the original thought. If you get a hold of your thoughts and feelings, you will be able to create the action and the result you desire. It is that simple. Really.

I want you to be practicing catching your "thoughts in action" and then seeing them "create a feeling" inside of you. It will help you see the patterns that you are in and what you are thinking about most often. (Our minds are thinking on a continual basis, sometimes without us really knowing what we are thinking and feeling exactly. BUT if we train our self to catch the "thought in action" and see it "create a feeling"...We will train our self to take control of our thoughts and feelings. And you won't have to be on that roller coaster of life anymore!)

I have been doing this all week. I realize that I think (worry) a lot about my kids when they are away from me. I think about what could happen to them. I then realized that it creates a paralyzed type of anxiety inside of me. I even stop breathing for a moment or 10...lol!

I decided to try to use "the fake it til' I make it" on this one...This one is a hard one to fake because of the worry and fear I have when they are away is so intense and terrifying. Unlike the other example in Part 1, where I was disappointed in my son, which is a whole different kind of feeling. Definitely a good one to start with. So, when I thought about him leaving (as he was walking out the door yesterday...my heart was racing and I was breathing very shallow, but I knew I was suppose to be "faking it" so I instantly started thinking of positive thoughts about him...I said to myself..."How wonderful that he is getting out in the world"..."That he is becoming a young adult and able to drive himself to where ever he needs to go."..."That he must FEEL such freedom and happiness like I did when I first started driving". I then slipped back into panic again...LOL! Because of another negative thought that popped into my head.

So, I went back to the faking it...This time I closed my eyes, opened my heart and literally FELT my thoughts and feelings. I thought (and felt) about him "literally" out in the world, driving in "Houston" traffic (by seeing him in Houston traffic, it made it more real for me). I pretended to see him managing the traffic with confidence and ease. I asked myself how that "felt" to see him in control and doing a great job on his own. It felt wonderful and freeing! INSTANTLY my chest relaxed and I started breathing normally again.

I realized that even my fearful thoughts that paralyze me are manageable. I wanted to share this story with you to show you that any negative thought is manageable and can be changed. Now, I want you to join me in practicing this new way of thinking to help you control your thoughts, feelings and moods. You don't have to be on that roller coaster anymore. You are in control and you can change your negative thoughts around almost instantly!

In the coming weeks, I am pulling out all my ideas and out of the box ways to become the happy go lucky YOU, so join me in "A SCREAMING Easy Way To Be Happy Now!" Series. You can find them here and on my FB page, A Screaming Good Life. {As always on any of my posts...Make sure to LIKE it, if you like it and COMMENT when you feel something that resonates inside of you! And if you feel like something you read would be helpful to someone else, SHARE it! Make it a full circle experience! It let's me know where I am doing the most good!} If you have a private Life Coaching question, email me @ ascreaminggoodlife@gmail.com!

Xo, Meme

No Judgement!

Most of us think we are not judgmental, but it is something that is sometimes so subtle in your mind you don't realize it is judgment. Maybe because you never say anything out loud. Like when you pass an over weight person and your mind says something unkind silently or you see a kid with piercings and your mind judges that kid and wonder what kind of parent would allow it. You may judge a religious or a non religious person, a eccentric and far out person, a thought or a belief that someone stands for...The list could go on and on. You can learn to be less judgmental or offended quite easily. This is how I did it. Every time I judge a person or anything that was different from my own beliefs, I would say to myself..."You just judged someone or something." I reflect on why I did judge and where it came from and then I say to myself "NO JUDGMENT!!!" It is working, I am training myself to be less judgmental...I hope you give it a try. It is a refreshing idea that is good for the soul! 

Xo, Meme

You Own The World!

The world is waiting...so go own it! You are surrounded by a WORLD of opportunities...Each one different and unique...each one waiting to be claimed and owned. It only takes the realization that this life you are living is truly a gift and should be used up and loved thoroughly through out your life. So go explore this world and find yourself...find YOUR passion and most importantly...find your DESTINY!!!! {Tip: Enjoy the stops along the way to your destiny, because those stops are there to teach you something about who you TRULY are and what you are TRULY here for...so you can get to your true destiny. So, no worries...just take it all in...You are on your way}

Xo, Meme

Magically YOU!

You hold in your hand the magic to change your life around. All you have to do is realize you are the creator of your happiness...Not your family, friends or outside environment...Look inside of yourself. What makes you happy, makes you smile, what makes time fly by? That is where to start...When you feel inspired you create "that magic"...That magic can help you through all of life's struggles, challenges and create a stability and place to run to when you need uplifting and inspiration...So open your eyes and reach out and grab YOUR LIFE by the hand and make a wish! Because your wish is truly at your command! So command it, own it and be the person you were truly destined to be! 

Xo, Meme

Do you ever notice how new things get our FULL attention. We love them, need them and want to have them in our lives...It could be a new relationship, a new home, a new car, or even art on a wall...And then one day, we walk by that art on the wall SO much that it fades into the back ground and we forget to admire it, to be inspired by it or even worse, to be thankful for it. Life is a gift...We receive them each and every day...Some small, some big! The most wonderful thing you could do is to look around each day and "SCREAM" thank you! I admire you, I am inspired by you and I am so blessed to have you in my life!!!! Say thank you for your relationships, your home, your car and even the little things that bring you joy and happiness...that daily cup of coffee, the silence on the drive home ...Say thank you for all the comforts and for even the discomforts that are there to teach you and help you make decisions and changes to create your destiny! 

 Xo, Meme

You Can Always Turn Around...

We have all lost our way...made mistakes and thought that was the end of the road...but all we have to remember is we can ALWAYS turn around and head back in the right direction! 

Xo, Meme

Truly Alive!

Your not weak, if you cry...Your ALIVE! You have emotions, feelings, dreams and desires. Crying is a way to release all that tension that has built up in your body. It must come out to renew your spirit and lift the burdens that have been weighing you down...So let it all out and leave it behind you. Your renewed spirit is ALIVE, well and ready to move forward. Xo, Meme

Become Who You Are Meant To Be!

We all want to experience that feeling of being completely alive. Some of us have had moments where we knew we were at our best...Everything flowing in the right direction. Our relationships, family, work, and free time were all working for us, rather than against us. Some of us, have always struggled...seems like we are always struggling to just make it through the day. The key isn't who we are or where we are...The key is to stop fighting to be right, to stop trying to win or to conquer something. The key is to let go and accept your life and where you are. While being able to see the beauty in your life. In the everyday boring stuff. Laugh at yourself and be easy to let go of being annoyed or upset at everything and everyone. Allow yourself to daydream about what you would like your life to be and FEEL that feeling of how it feels to be the person you see in your daydreams...Scientists have proven that our subconscious minds cannot decipher between reality and our daydreams. Our brains believe our daydreams to be reality just as they do our actual daily lives. So daydream...believe them, feel them and let them live inside of your heart...Believe in yourself...in your dreams...You never know where your DREAMS will take you!

Xo, Meme

This The Green Really Greener?

When I was younger I always thought that the grass was always greener on the other side. I would sit and daydream about what I thought my life would be like if I was living a different life. Perhaps a different home, a different lifestyle, maybe even different circumstances...It wouldn't of really mattered what the difference was, it was how it made me "FEEL" when I thought about my life differently.

As I got older, I started to realize that all my circumstances where actually benefiting my life on a grander scale. They were like stepping stones to the next venture in "the story of my life". Like pages turning, I could see the beauty in how everything unfolded. It is beautifully orchestrated and it could not of been more perfect. Had I been in complete control and guided my life the way I saw fit. I don't know if I could of created a life more perfect than my life, "my story"...

So the lesson is to nurture yourself where you are now. Who knows where you will end up or who you are destined to become. The only thing you have to do is to make sure to water {nurture} your grass {your life}...and make it the greenest, most envied grass on the block. So, when you catch yourself daydreaming or envying someone or something else...Remember "your story" is in the making..."Your grass" is slowly maturing and growing...and one day you are going to walk out outside your door and say, "Wow, this is all mine...my life, my story, my green, beautiful "OH SO LUSHEST" grass...thank goodness, I didn't run to the other side...

 Xo, Meme

We Are All Geniuses

We are all geniuses in our own right. We all have something special about us...Abilities that can create and evolve into whatever we allow them to. But sadly we stop and are often stifled by who we think we are and who we think we should be. These thoughts are often due to negative circumstances and negative people that surround us on a daily basis. We can't see the full picture of our truth...of our destiny...Because we choose to believe in others' thoughts and opinions, instead of our own. So, we fall into the trap of being less than and we accept it. Choosing to believe in others thoughts is a choice, remember that when you are choosing your beliefs about yourself and the world around around you.

If we really stopped and thought about our abilities and our strengths (and accepted them as truth), it would blow our own minds!!! Yet, we let the world around us judge who we are and believe it as truth. What a waste of a life...YOUR life! Your life is a GIFT and who you TRULY are is a MIRACLE...Stop and really think about that...You are blessed with a mind that can create and evolve into whatever YOU believe you can achieve...Yet, we allow people and circumstances to determine who we truly are and what we should be.

Take some time today and write down all the things that make you stand out from the crowd. All the unique gifts that were given to you at birth. Do not hold back, this is only for you to see. Then I want you to read it to yourself at least 3 times and imagine that you are an outsider looking in (an optimistic one would be nice...lol) . Soak in these gifts and talents and ask yourself...How could anyone deny that this person isn't amazing and a genius in their own right! One last step, start doing something on that list of talents and gifts everyday. And each time you do it, say to yourself, "Self, you are so talented and smart! I am so lucky to be you!"...Shine in this world, we need all the sunshine we can get! 

 Xo, Meme

Feelings Are Most Of The Battle...

Remember we live in a "feeling" world...Feeling is the key to most things! If you can get someone to "feel" what you are trying to convey, you have won half of the battle! Remember this one thing..."To feel is to remember"... 

Xo, Meme

Being Misunderstood

BEING MISUNDERSTOOD

Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt, kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate. Albert Schweitzer

***Sometimes we are misunderstood. That is a part of life. We can't all understand everyone and everything. We are different and we have our own thoughts and feelings about life. We can let it eat at our souls or choose to let it go. Life is all about becoming who you are meant to be and standing up for what you believe in. And sometimes, that means risking being misunderstood and misread. Here are some questions to ask when you are caught in the middle of something you never intended...

1) Did you mean to come across that way? Did you come into the situation with an open heart to be understood or did you come halfheartedly?
2) Did you do all you could to be understood, after being misunderstood?
3) Do you wish the best for the other person or are you filled with anger about the situation and the person?

If you want to be able to truly let go of the situation, you need to ask yourself if you did your best in trying to fix the problem...When you have done everything you could do...You can say to yourself...I have done all I can. I wish the best for the other person and if the situation can be fixed through kindness and a little distance...I am open to that. Until then, I choose to move forward with an open heart and clear mind...

Xo, Meme

You Want True, Lasting Change?

You want change? The difference between who you are right this minute and who you want to be is what you believe is true. When you change your mind, you will definitely change your reality. Period. Xo, Meme

YOU Are Powerful!

YOU Are Powerful!

You are powerful, you are full of life, you ROCK! You know it...I know it! I believe in you, I believe in your story, I believe that your LIFE has meaning, value and deserves to shine like the diamond that you are! So what you failed, you made mistakes...Yeah, who hasn't? None of that crap matters...You can change...You can change right here, right now! All you have to say is..."World are you ready for this? I have stuff that matters, life altering, mind blowing stuff...and I am FINALLY ready to show you what I have to offer!" And then bring it!

You know you have it...it is buried under the past. The mistakes, regrets and heartache. But the past is gone and we are here right now. And we can do this! If you choose to believe you are worth it. That your life has meaning and your story has really only just begun! Starting over is your born right!

So, why doesn't the world know how great YOU are? Why are they not seeing what we see? Hmmm? Time for a change? Time to take back Your POWER? Ready...SET...Let's do this! I am here to inspire, uplift and make you see what I see...I see your greatness, I see your strengths and I see a life that is worth fighting for! You no longer have to be who you aren't...You are powerful, full of life and YES! Y~O~U ROCK!

This page is here to help you find your strength, your true happiness and your way back home to who you truly are and where you want your life to go! I am in high gear...And ready to kick this page in high gear...So we can get there even faster! Are you with me? LET'S DO THIS Xo, Meme

Love Yourself Every Step Of The Way

Love yourself Every...Step...Of...The...Way!

Tell yourself you will love yourself...Every...Step...Of...The...Way! And do just that! If you can learn to truly love yourself...Who you are, where you are at in this moment and where you wish to be in the future...all while not beating yourself up or putting yourself down...You will grow into a more peaceful and happier person...and actually see your life unfold more beautifully...with more ease, balance and clarity to be able to transform yourself to who you dream of being without the self-hatred and unkind words you tell yourself. Because you can't ever get to where you want to be with self-hatred. Period.

You know why you beat yourself up? Because you are looking outside of yourself for happiness, peace and the answers to the questions you have about your life...Like why you are here, why your life is the way it is, where you are headed and if your life will ever be what you dream it to be.

Love your flaws...imperfections...mistakes...setbacks and anything else you beat yourself up for...and I promise (yes, promise) you one thing. You will never be the same. Your life will transform, will grow and flourish. Will all your dreams come true? Probably not. ;) But dreams you didn't dream of will manifest and emerge out of no where. And you will realize that those dreams were better than the ones you could of ever dreamt of...:) Guaranteed...100%...A pinky swear promise...So, will you take me up on this challenge? And do it fully, with complete love...Every...Step...Of...The...Way?

Xo, Meme

A SCREAMING Easy Way To Be Happy Now...{Part 1 Of The Screaming Happy Series}

A SCREAMING Easy Way To Be Happy Now...

By: Meme Estes, Life Coach/Mentor

You want to be happy NOW? Here is one of my easy and quick ways to be HAPPY now! Yes, this very second! So, here we go! Let's get happy now!

~FEELINGS~

You know those things that we feel. Sometimes they make you feel like you are on a roller coaster...Up, down and then around...Oh, and the BIG surprise loop in the middle! lol Yes, that roller coaster ride, we call FEELINGS! Feelings are more controllable than you think. With some life coaching, you can get a hold of those feelings and finally have the peace and happiness you have been trying to find so desperately.

Did you know feelings follow thoughts and then create an action? If you stop and think about what I just said for a minute...You have a thought and then a feeling emerges from that thought. That feeling then pushes you to do an action. Usually if you have a negative thought...you will feel sad, angry or disappointed and you will react negatively toward the situation/person. BUT did you know that if you changed your "feeling" by faking a feeling...It stops the negativity in its tracks? Stay with me here...With your thinking caps on...I will explain.

Here is how it works. Say you are angry with your child for not doing something he had promised to do. You would normally act upset, irritated and maybe even give a silent treatment. BUT what if you pretended that you were not upset & irritated...instead your words were thoughtful, loving and encouraging. It would instantly (yes instantly) soften your anger toward him/her. BECAUSE your thought had to change to be able to process that you were going to make yourself feel differently. You will then usually diminish your anger to more of a disappointment...BUT if you continue to practice the art of faking it until you make yourself truly feel it. You will go from anger to peace, instead of to disappointment almost instantly. Because you trained/coached yourself to change your thought process...

Remember a thought creates a feeling, which leads to an action. That simple. It may seem like it is too easy to work. But by "faking the feeling" you are not realizing you are shifting your thoughts to be more positive. And what did that thought and feeling create? An ACTION!!!! If you stop and read this a few times and truly remember to do this each time life isn't working for you. I PROMISE that you will become a happier person naturally without faking. And soon you will not need to remember the steps, it will come naturally...because you coached yourself to be happy just because.

So, the first few times you do this, you may feel weird about doing it. And try to fight it. But go with it. Saying to yourself...No, Coach Meme said that I HAVE to fake this feeling and I am going to do it. And follow through with it. You will be surprised that it really does work and it will transform your thought process and your LIFE. So I am asking that you trust me and just go along with it with an open heart and willingness to try. You want happiness and this is one of the ways to do it. Training yourself to react differently will change your life...Keep me posted on how it works! You can email or post a comment here! I love hearing your success stories!

I will share more of my easy OUT OF THE BOX tips for the next few weeks...so stay tuned and look for the heading, "A SCREAMING Easy Way To Be Happy Now!" These posts will be a part of my Life Coach Series...where I SHOW you how to put my ideas and thoughts I regularly post to ACTION! What is the use of the ideas and thoughts, if you don't know how to apply them! :) Always a FULL circle experience here! Thanks for reading and make today the day you decide to take your life back! And make it A Screaming Good Life!

Xo, Meme