A SCREAMING Easy Way To Be Happy Now...{Part 2 Of The Screaming Happy Series}

"A SCREAMING Easy Way To Be Happy Now!" Series~Part 2
(scroll down to read Part 1)
By: Meme Estes, Life Coach/Mentor
ascreaminggoodlife@gmail.com

~Feelings-Part 2~


Okay, on Tuesday we talked about our feelings. Feelings play a BIG part in how we see our life and this world. We often think feelings are not controllable. But as I discussed in Part 1, they are very controllable and easier to change than you would think. We will be continuing today on the same topic, because we need to "cement" this in our brains before moving on to the rest of the series. If we can get a hold on our thoughts and feelings, the rest is a cakewalk! So put your thinking caps on...Here we go!

Remember that feelings are not the first thing that happens in our brains. It is actually our thoughts that come first. You have a thought and then a feeling emerges from that thought. That feeling then pushes you to do an action. And that action is then the result of the original thought. If you get a hold of your thoughts and feelings, you will be able to create the action and the result you desire. It is that simple. Really.

I want you to be practicing catching your "thoughts in action" and then seeing them "create a feeling" inside of you. It will help you see the patterns that you are in and what you are thinking about most often. (Our minds are thinking on a continual basis, sometimes without us really knowing what we are thinking and feeling exactly. BUT if we train our self to catch the "thought in action" and see it "create a feeling"...We will train our self to take control of our thoughts and feelings. And you won't have to be on that roller coaster of life anymore!)

I have been doing this all week. I realize that I think (worry) a lot about my kids when they are away from me. I think about what could happen to them. I then realized that it creates a paralyzed type of anxiety inside of me. I even stop breathing for a moment or 10...lol!

I decided to try to use "the fake it til' I make it" on this one...This one is a hard one to fake because of the worry and fear I have when they are away is so intense and terrifying. Unlike the other example in Part 1, where I was disappointed in my son, which is a whole different kind of feeling. Definitely a good one to start with. So, when I thought about him leaving (as he was walking out the door yesterday...my heart was racing and I was breathing very shallow, but I knew I was suppose to be "faking it" so I instantly started thinking of positive thoughts about him...I said to myself..."How wonderful that he is getting out in the world"..."That he is becoming a young adult and able to drive himself to where ever he needs to go."..."That he must FEEL such freedom and happiness like I did when I first started driving". I then slipped back into panic again...LOL! Because of another negative thought that popped into my head.

So, I went back to the faking it...This time I closed my eyes, opened my heart and literally FELT my thoughts and feelings. I thought (and felt) about him "literally" out in the world, driving in "Houston" traffic (by seeing him in Houston traffic, it made it more real for me). I pretended to see him managing the traffic with confidence and ease. I asked myself how that "felt" to see him in control and doing a great job on his own. It felt wonderful and freeing! INSTANTLY my chest relaxed and I started breathing normally again.

I realized that even my fearful thoughts that paralyze me are manageable. I wanted to share this story with you to show you that any negative thought is manageable and can be changed. Now, I want you to join me in practicing this new way of thinking to help you control your thoughts, feelings and moods. You don't have to be on that roller coaster anymore. You are in control and you can change your negative thoughts around almost instantly!

In the coming weeks, I am pulling out all my ideas and out of the box ways to become the happy go lucky YOU, so join me in "A SCREAMING Easy Way To Be Happy Now!" Series. You can find them here and on my FB page, A Screaming Good Life. {As always on any of my posts...Make sure to LIKE it, if you like it and COMMENT when you feel something that resonates inside of you! And if you feel like something you read would be helpful to someone else, SHARE it! Make it a full circle experience! It let's me know where I am doing the most good!} If you have a private Life Coaching question, email me @ ascreaminggoodlife@gmail.com!

Xo, Meme