Worrying is such an overwhelming feeling of fear. We use it as though it is helping our self or those we worry about. It is not something that will fix anything or make it go away. It only aggravates the situation more. Some even use it subconsciously thinking it is a form of love. If they don't excessively worry than they do not care about the situation or the person. Others equal worry with love. It is not love, it is fear.
You have to learn to be able to relax, release and let go of the control. You are not really controlling anything with worry, only making yourself sick with worry. I was the world's greatest worrier. If there was a problem, I would immediately go into my worry mode. It was something I learned from my own family. And I am sure they learned it from the generations before them.
I realized as I got older that worrying about the future was useless and it created a lot of anxiety and depression inside of myself. And with that anxiety and depression, I was defenseless and powerless. I could not rise up to lead the situation or find the answers to solve the problem. I knew I needed to change myself to become an asset to any challenge or problem I was facing, whether it was my problem or someone else's.
So, slowly but surely...I learned to let go of the worry and the control. I relaxed in thoughts of past situations that worked out on their own. I realized that some of the worst situations ended up to be the greatest gifts and others ended up to be the great lessons.
I realized that I was here to experience, learn and grow. And without some of these situations I would of never became who I am today. The darkest days of my life ended up creating the person I see in the mirror today.
Worry is a made up feeling of control. We think subconsciously that if we worry we are somewhat in control. It is actually the opposite, you are out of control. Out of control emotionally, physically and mentally.
Here are some questions to ask yourself in times of worry.
- How can you be of service in a constructive way? What actions are going to work best for this situation?
- Do you need to take a break to think about how you can help the situation? Taking a break, whether a brisk walk or a few days to breathe, think and pray on it, is better than overreacting to the situation. Take the time you need to build yourself up to be a valuable asset to the problem.
- What past similar experiences have you had that worked out? And how did they work out? Were you a part of the solution or did it work out on it's own?
- Have you sat down to write a gratitude list? I know that this is hard to do when you are upset, but I promise it will uplift you to the place you need to be to find the strength and the answers.
Find peace in your heart and the worry will magically disappear. And strength will replace it. Life is about learning, growing and evolving. Make your life lessons count. Learn from them. Grow from them. And rise up to be a leader in your life and the lives around you. You are a gift and this life of yours has meaning. Don't let fear stifle your journey.
What worries are on your mind?
~Coach Meme
