Magically Heal Your Relationships
Day 15 Of The Challenge:
Relationships make our lives richer. But when you are struggling with a difficult relationship it can be devastating and heart breaking. You may be struggling to repair a broken relationship or heal from one that is not repairable. Or you may have lost a loved one through a death that you were not ready to let go of. Especially one that had unfinished business that needed to be resolved. It could be a marriage, a boyfriend or a girlfriend, a mother or a father, a sibling, a distant relative or a friend. Or maybe a business relationship like a boss, a co-worker, an employee or a client.
There are usually feelings of pain, resentment and blame. These feelings make it hard to find any gratitude for anything, let alone a close relationship. Because you are too busy holding on to all the pain, resentment and blaming the other person for hurting you so deeply. It is very human to do this. Pain and resentment is hard to deal with. What you are doing is just trying to find relief from it all. But when you use gratitude as a tool to heal your heart. It can transform you virtually overnight. Whether it is a current relationship or a past relationship. You can use this to heal any relationship and yourself. If it is a past relationship, it will release you so you can move on completely without attachment to the pain and loss. If you are still in the relationship it can change your feelings toward the relationship, so you can focus on what needs to be done to heal the relationship or be able to move on from the relationship in a healthier way.
What most people don't know is that when you have these negative feelings you are actually harming yourself more than the other person. You are also setting your future up for more bad feelings to come. It is the law of attraction's job to match whatever primary thoughts and feelings you have.
Today you are going to pick one relationship that you are struggling with and find 10 things you are grateful for in that relationship. It can be a past or present relationship. Think back on the good parts of the relationship. The good qualities that they have, the good memories you both shared or anything positive you can come up with about the other person. The easiest way to do this is to go back to before the relationship started to weaken. If the relationship was never good you will just have to think of moments you saw their greatness. We all have something that makes us valuable, so think hard and you will come up with them.
This challenge is not about how badly they hurt you. Or about who is right or wrong. It is not even about the other person as much as it is about yourself. The magic is that by doing this challenge you are healing yourself and through doing that you ultimately heal the relationship or are able to let go of the relationship and the pain attached. The best part is you don't need the other person to help heal you or the relationship.
Every relationship we have is here to teach us something. Even the ones that are painful are valuable to our live. They teach us so many life lessons that we end up growing into a better person for having to endure that kind of pain and suffering. We become stronger, more aware of life around us, and how fragile life is. And we learn to value our self more in the process.
Really dig deep into this challenge because it is such a good one to help move you forward into becoming who you are meant to be. You will be amazed at how good you will feel after completing this challenge. If you don't you will continue to do this practice daily until you have no bad feelings about the relationship. Because remember we are doing this challenge to change our thoughts and feelings, so we can attract what we do want in our life.
And lastly, any time you have bad feelings about any relationship (close or not), this practice is so important to do. It will help you to stay on course and continue attracting the life you do desire. We all have times when someone really gets to us. But if you continue this practice with each problem that arises, you will eliminate problems before they escalate. And ultimately train yourself to steer clear of negativity and stay on course naturally!
Here are a few examples to get your mind thinking:
Example #1: Your ex-husband or ex-wife
- (their name)______, I am grateful to you for our children. Without you I would not be blessed with them. (You will get to the point where you are grateful for them every time you look at your children. You just have to get past the pain first).
- ______, thank you for our marriage. Though it ended there were good times we shared. I learned and grew a lot from the pain. I am wiser and have more self worth and I value all my other relationships in my life more for having to go through such a difficult experience.
- ______, I am grateful for you working and letting me stay home with my children. I was able to see them walk and talk for the first time. I know now that was a gift.
- ______, I am thankful you were there for me when I lost my Mom. It was such a difficult time and you gave me the love and support I needed to heal. Thank you, thank you, thank you for that!
~Meme
