A SCREAMING Easy Way To Be Happy Now...{Part 2 Of The Screaming Happy Series}

"A SCREAMING Easy Way To Be Happy Now!" Series~Part 2
(scroll down to read Part 1)
By: Meme Estes, Life Coach/Mentor
ascreaminggoodlife@gmail.com

~Feelings-Part 2~


Okay, on Tuesday we talked about our feelings. Feelings play a BIG part in how we see our life and this world. We often think feelings are not controllable. But as I discussed in Part 1, they are very controllable and easier to change than you would think. We will be continuing today on the same topic, because we need to "cement" this in our brains before moving on to the rest of the series. If we can get a hold on our thoughts and feelings, the rest is a cakewalk! So put your thinking caps on...Here we go!

Remember that feelings are not the first thing that happens in our brains. It is actually our thoughts that come first. You have a thought and then a feeling emerges from that thought. That feeling then pushes you to do an action. And that action is then the result of the original thought. If you get a hold of your thoughts and feelings, you will be able to create the action and the result you desire. It is that simple. Really.

I want you to be practicing catching your "thoughts in action" and then seeing them "create a feeling" inside of you. It will help you see the patterns that you are in and what you are thinking about most often. (Our minds are thinking on a continual basis, sometimes without us really knowing what we are thinking and feeling exactly. BUT if we train our self to catch the "thought in action" and see it "create a feeling"...We will train our self to take control of our thoughts and feelings. And you won't have to be on that roller coaster of life anymore!)

I have been doing this all week. I realize that I think (worry) a lot about my kids when they are away from me. I think about what could happen to them. I then realized that it creates a paralyzed type of anxiety inside of me. I even stop breathing for a moment or 10...lol!

I decided to try to use "the fake it til' I make it" on this one...This one is a hard one to fake because of the worry and fear I have when they are away is so intense and terrifying. Unlike the other example in Part 1, where I was disappointed in my son, which is a whole different kind of feeling. Definitely a good one to start with. So, when I thought about him leaving (as he was walking out the door yesterday...my heart was racing and I was breathing very shallow, but I knew I was suppose to be "faking it" so I instantly started thinking of positive thoughts about him...I said to myself..."How wonderful that he is getting out in the world"..."That he is becoming a young adult and able to drive himself to where ever he needs to go."..."That he must FEEL such freedom and happiness like I did when I first started driving". I then slipped back into panic again...LOL! Because of another negative thought that popped into my head.

So, I went back to the faking it...This time I closed my eyes, opened my heart and literally FELT my thoughts and feelings. I thought (and felt) about him "literally" out in the world, driving in "Houston" traffic (by seeing him in Houston traffic, it made it more real for me). I pretended to see him managing the traffic with confidence and ease. I asked myself how that "felt" to see him in control and doing a great job on his own. It felt wonderful and freeing! INSTANTLY my chest relaxed and I started breathing normally again.

I realized that even my fearful thoughts that paralyze me are manageable. I wanted to share this story with you to show you that any negative thought is manageable and can be changed. Now, I want you to join me in practicing this new way of thinking to help you control your thoughts, feelings and moods. You don't have to be on that roller coaster anymore. You are in control and you can change your negative thoughts around almost instantly!

In the coming weeks, I am pulling out all my ideas and out of the box ways to become the happy go lucky YOU, so join me in "A SCREAMING Easy Way To Be Happy Now!" Series. You can find them here and on my FB page, A Screaming Good Life. {As always on any of my posts...Make sure to LIKE it, if you like it and COMMENT when you feel something that resonates inside of you! And if you feel like something you read would be helpful to someone else, SHARE it! Make it a full circle experience! It let's me know where I am doing the most good!} If you have a private Life Coaching question, email me @ ascreaminggoodlife@gmail.com!

Xo, Meme

Magically YOU!

You hold in your hand the magic to change your life around. All you have to do is realize you are the creator of your happiness...Not your family, friends or outside environment...Look inside of yourself. What makes you happy, makes you smile, what makes time fly by? That is where to start...When you feel inspired you create "that magic"...That magic can help you through all of life's struggles, challenges and create a stability and place to run to when you need uplifting and inspiration...So open your eyes and reach out and grab YOUR LIFE by the hand and make a wish! Because your wish is truly at your command! So command it, own it and be the person you were truly destined to be! 

Xo, Meme

A SCREAMING Easy Way To Be Happy Now...{Part 1 Of The Screaming Happy Series}

A SCREAMING Easy Way To Be Happy Now...

By: Meme Estes, Life Coach/Mentor

You want to be happy NOW? Here is one of my easy and quick ways to be HAPPY now! Yes, this very second! So, here we go! Let's get happy now!

~FEELINGS~

You know those things that we feel. Sometimes they make you feel like you are on a roller coaster...Up, down and then around...Oh, and the BIG surprise loop in the middle! lol Yes, that roller coaster ride, we call FEELINGS! Feelings are more controllable than you think. With some life coaching, you can get a hold of those feelings and finally have the peace and happiness you have been trying to find so desperately.

Did you know feelings follow thoughts and then create an action? If you stop and think about what I just said for a minute...You have a thought and then a feeling emerges from that thought. That feeling then pushes you to do an action. Usually if you have a negative thought...you will feel sad, angry or disappointed and you will react negatively toward the situation/person. BUT did you know that if you changed your "feeling" by faking a feeling...It stops the negativity in its tracks? Stay with me here...With your thinking caps on...I will explain.

Here is how it works. Say you are angry with your child for not doing something he had promised to do. You would normally act upset, irritated and maybe even give a silent treatment. BUT what if you pretended that you were not upset & irritated...instead your words were thoughtful, loving and encouraging. It would instantly (yes instantly) soften your anger toward him/her. BECAUSE your thought had to change to be able to process that you were going to make yourself feel differently. You will then usually diminish your anger to more of a disappointment...BUT if you continue to practice the art of faking it until you make yourself truly feel it. You will go from anger to peace, instead of to disappointment almost instantly. Because you trained/coached yourself to change your thought process...

Remember a thought creates a feeling, which leads to an action. That simple. It may seem like it is too easy to work. But by "faking the feeling" you are not realizing you are shifting your thoughts to be more positive. And what did that thought and feeling create? An ACTION!!!! If you stop and read this a few times and truly remember to do this each time life isn't working for you. I PROMISE that you will become a happier person naturally without faking. And soon you will not need to remember the steps, it will come naturally...because you coached yourself to be happy just because.

So, the first few times you do this, you may feel weird about doing it. And try to fight it. But go with it. Saying to yourself...No, Coach Meme said that I HAVE to fake this feeling and I am going to do it. And follow through with it. You will be surprised that it really does work and it will transform your thought process and your LIFE. So I am asking that you trust me and just go along with it with an open heart and willingness to try. You want happiness and this is one of the ways to do it. Training yourself to react differently will change your life...Keep me posted on how it works! You can email or post a comment here! I love hearing your success stories!

I will share more of my easy OUT OF THE BOX tips for the next few weeks...so stay tuned and look for the heading, "A SCREAMING Easy Way To Be Happy Now!" These posts will be a part of my Life Coach Series...where I SHOW you how to put my ideas and thoughts I regularly post to ACTION! What is the use of the ideas and thoughts, if you don't know how to apply them! :) Always a FULL circle experience here! Thanks for reading and make today the day you decide to take your life back! And make it A Screaming Good Life!

Xo, Meme