"A SCREAMING Easy Way To Be Happy Now!" Series~Part 2
(scroll down to read Part 1)
By: Meme Estes, Life Coach/Mentor
ascreaminggoodlife@gmail.com
~Feelings-Part 2~
Okay, on Tuesday we talked about our feelings. Feelings play a BIG part in how we see our life and this world. We often think feelings are not controllable. But as I discussed in Part 1, they are very controllable and easier to change than you would think. We will be continuing today on the same topic, because we need to "cement" this in our brains before moving on to the rest of the series. If we can get a hold on our thoughts and feelings, the rest is a cakewalk! So put your thinking caps on...Here we go!
Remember that feelings are not the first thing that happens in our brains. It is actually our thoughts that come first. You have a thought and then a feeling emerges from that thought. That feeling then pushes you to do an action. And that action is then the result of the original thought. If you get a hold of your thoughts and feelings, you will be able to create the action and the result you desire. It is that simple. Really.
I want you to be practicing catching your "thoughts in action" and then seeing them "create a feeling" inside of you. It will help you see the patterns that you are in and what you are thinking about most often. (Our minds are thinking on a continual basis, sometimes without us really knowing what we are thinking and feeling exactly. BUT if we train our self to catch the "thought in action" and see it "create a feeling"...We will train our self to take control of our thoughts and feelings. And you won't have to be on that roller coaster of life anymore!)
I have been doing this all week. I realize that I think (worry) a lot about my kids when they are away from me. I think about what could happen to them. I then realized that it creates a paralyzed type of anxiety inside of me. I even stop breathing for a moment or 10...lol!
I decided to try to use "the fake it til' I make it" on this one...This one is a hard one to fake because of the worry and fear I have when they are away is so intense and terrifying. Unlike the other example in Part 1, where I was disappointed in my son, which is a whole different kind of feeling. Definitely a good one to start with. So, when I thought about him leaving (as he was walking out the door yesterday...my heart was racing and I was breathing very shallow, but I knew I was suppose to be "faking it" so I instantly started thinking of positive thoughts about him...I said to myself..."How wonderful that he is getting out in the world"..."That he is becoming a young adult and able to drive himself to where ever he needs to go."..."That he must FEEL such freedom and happiness like I did when I first started driving". I then slipped back into panic again...LOL! Because of another negative thought that popped into my head.
So, I went back to the faking it...This time I closed my eyes, opened my heart and literally FELT my thoughts and feelings. I thought (and felt) about him "literally" out in the world, driving in "Houston" traffic (by seeing him in Houston traffic, it made it more real for me). I pretended to see him managing the traffic with confidence and ease. I asked myself how that "felt" to see him in control and doing a great job on his own. It felt wonderful and freeing! INSTANTLY my chest relaxed and I started breathing normally again.
I realized that even my fearful thoughts that paralyze me are manageable. I wanted to share this story with you to show you that any negative thought is manageable and can be changed. Now, I want you to join me in practicing this new way of thinking to help you control your thoughts, feelings and moods. You don't have to be on that roller coaster anymore. You are in control and you can change your negative thoughts around almost instantly!
In the coming weeks, I am pulling out all my ideas and out of the box ways to become the happy go lucky YOU, so join me in "A SCREAMING Easy Way To Be Happy Now!" Series. You can find them here and on my FB page, A Screaming Good Life. {As always on any of my posts...Make sure to LIKE it, if you like it and COMMENT when you feel something that resonates inside of you! And if you feel like something you read would be helpful to someone else, SHARE it! Make it a full circle experience! It let's me know where I am doing the most good!} If you have a private Life Coaching question, email me @ ascreaminggoodlife@gmail.com!
Xo, Meme
Most of us think we are not judgmental, but it is something that is sometimes so subtle in your mind you don't realize it is judgment. Maybe because you never say anything out loud. Like when you pass an over weight person and your mind says something unkind silently or you see a kid with piercings and your mind judges that kid and wonder what kind of parent would allow it. You may judge a religious or a non religious person, a eccentric and far out person, a thought or a belief that someone stands for...The list could go on and on. You can learn to be less judgmental or offended quite easily. This is how I did it. Every time I judge a person or anything that was different from my own beliefs, I would say to myself..."You just judged someone or something." I reflect on why I did judge and where it came from and then I say to myself "NO JUDGMENT!!!" It is working, I am training myself to be less judgmental...I hope you give it a try. It is a refreshing idea that is good for the soul!
Xo, Meme
The world is waiting...so go own it! You are surrounded by a WORLD of opportunities...Each one different and unique...each one waiting to be claimed and owned. It only takes the realization that this life you are living is truly a gift and should be used up and loved thoroughly through out your life. So go explore this world and find yourself...find YOUR passion and most importantly...find your DESTINY!!!! {Tip: Enjoy the stops along the way to your destiny, because those stops are there to teach you something about who you TRULY are and what you are TRULY here for...so you can get to your true destiny. So, no worries...just take it all in...You are on your way}
Xo, Meme
You hold in your hand the magic to change your life around. All you have to do is realize you are the creator of your happiness...Not your family, friends or outside environment...Look inside of yourself. What makes you happy, makes you smile, what makes time fly by? That is where to start...When you feel inspired you create "that magic"...That magic can help you through all of life's struggles, challenges and create a stability and place to run to when you need uplifting and inspiration...So open your eyes and reach out and grab YOUR LIFE by the hand and make a wish! Because your wish is truly at your command! So command it, own it and be the person you were truly destined to be!
Xo, Meme
Do you ever notice how new things get our FULL attention. We love them, need them and want to have them in our lives...It could be a new relationship, a new home, a new car, or even art on a wall...And then one day, we walk by that art on the wall SO much that it fades into the back ground and we forget to admire it, to be inspired by it or even worse, to be thankful for it. Life is a gift...We receive them each and every day...Some small, some big! The most wonderful thing you could do is to look around each day and "SCREAM" thank you! I admire you, I am inspired by you and I am so blessed to have you in my life!!!! Say thank you for your relationships, your home, your car and even the little things that bring you joy and happiness...that daily cup of coffee, the silence on the drive home ...Say thank you for all the comforts and for even the discomforts that are there to teach you and help you make decisions and changes to create your destiny!
Xo, Meme
We have all lost our way...made mistakes and thought that was the end of the road...but all we have to remember is we can ALWAYS turn around and head back in the right direction!
Xo, Meme
Your not weak, if you cry...Your ALIVE! You have emotions, feelings, dreams and desires. Crying is a way to release all that tension that has built up in your body. It must come out to renew your spirit and lift the burdens that have been weighing you down...So let it all out and leave it behind you. Your renewed spirit is ALIVE, well and ready to move forward. Xo, Meme
