Wednesday, November 9, 2011
Being Misunderstood
BEING MISUNDERSTOOD
Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt, kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate. Albert Schweitzer
***Sometimes we are misunderstood. That is a part of life. We can't all understand everyone and everything. We are different and we have our own thoughts and feelings about life. We can let it eat at our souls or choose to let it go. Life is all about becoming who you are meant to be and standing up for what you believe in. And sometimes, that means risking being misunderstood and misread. Here are some questions to ask when you are caught in the middle of something you never intended...
1) Did you mean to come across that way? Did you come into the situation with an open heart to be understood or did you come halfheartedly?
2) Did you do all you could to be understood, after being misunderstood?
3) Do you wish the best for the other person or are you filled with anger about the situation and the person?
If you want to be able to truly let go of the situation, you need to ask yourself if you did your best in trying to fix the problem...When you have done everything you could do...You can say to yourself...I have done all I can. I wish the best for the other person and if the situation can be fixed through kindness and a little distance...I am open to that. Until then, I choose to move forward with an open heart and clear mind...
Xo, Meme
You Want True, Lasting Change?
You want change? The difference between who you are right this minute and who you want to be is what you believe is true. When you change your mind, you will definitely change your reality. Period. Xo, Meme
YOU Are Powerful!
YOU Are Powerful!
You are powerful, you are full of life, you ROCK! You know it...I know it! I believe in you, I believe in your story, I believe that your LIFE has meaning, value and deserves to shine like the diamond that you are! So what you failed, you made mistakes...Yeah, who hasn't? None of that crap matters...You can change...You can change right here, right now! All you have to say is..."World are you ready for this? I have stuff that matters, life altering, mind blowing stuff...and I am FINALLY ready to show you what I have to offer!" And then bring it!
You are powerful, you are full of life, you ROCK! You know it...I know it! I believe in you, I believe in your story, I believe that your LIFE has meaning, value and deserves to shine like the diamond that you are! So what you failed, you made mistakes...Yeah, who hasn't? None of that crap matters...You can change...You can change right here, right now! All you have to say is..."World are you ready for this? I have stuff that matters, life altering, mind blowing stuff...and I am FINALLY ready to show you what I have to offer!" And then bring it!
You know you have it...it is buried under the past. The mistakes, regrets and heartache. But the past is gone and we are here right now. And we can do this! If you choose to believe you are worth it. That your life has meaning and your story has really only just begun! Starting over is your born right!
So, why doesn't the world know how great YOU are? Why are they not seeing what we see? Hmmm? Time for a change? Time to take back Your POWER? Ready...SET...Let's do this! I am here to inspire, uplift and make you see what I see...I see your greatness, I see your strengths and I see a life that is worth fighting for! You no longer have to be who you aren't...You are powerful, full of life and YES! Y~O~U ROCK!
This page is here to help you find your strength, your true happiness and your way back home to who you truly are and where you want your life to go! I am in high gear...And ready to kick this page in high gear...So we can get there even faster! Are you with me? LET'S DO THIS Xo, Meme
Love Yourself Every Step Of The Way
Love yourself Every...Step...Of...The...Way!
Tell yourself you will love yourself...Every...Step...Of..
Tell yourself you will love yourself...Every...Step...Of..
You know why you beat yourself up? Because you are looking outside of yourself for happiness, peace and the answers to the questions you have about your life...Like why you are here, why your life is the way it is, where you are headed and if your life will ever be what you dream it to be.
Love your flaws...imperfections...mistak
Xo, Meme
A SCREAMING Easy Way To Be Happy Now...{Part 1 Of The Screaming Happy Series}
A SCREAMING Easy Way To Be Happy Now...
By: Meme Estes, Life Coach/Mentor
You want to be happy NOW? Here is one of my easy and quick ways to be HAPPY now! Yes, this very second! So, here we go! Let's get happy now!
~FEELINGS~
You know those things that we feel. Sometimes they make you feel like you are on a roller coaster...Up, down and then around...Oh, and the BIG surprise loop in the middle! lol Yes, that roller coaster ride, we call FEELINGS! Feelings are more controllable than you think. With some life coaching, you can get a hold of those feelings and finally have the peace and happiness you have been trying to find so desperately.
Did you know feelings follow thoughts and then create an action? If you stop and think about what I just said for a minute...You have a thought and then a feeling emerges from that thought. That feeling then pushes you to do an action. Usually if you have a negative thought...you will feel sad, angry or disappointed and you will react negatively toward the situation/person. BUT did you know that if you changed your "feeling" by faking a feeling...It stops the negativity in its tracks? Stay with me here...With your thinking caps on...I will explain.
Here is how it works. Say you are angry with your child for not doing something he had promised to do. You would normally act upset, irritated and maybe even give a silent treatment. BUT what if you pretended that you were not upset & irritated...instead your words were thoughtful, loving and encouraging. It would instantly (yes instantly) soften your anger toward him/her. BECAUSE your thought had to change to be able to process that you were going to make yourself feel differently. You will then usually diminish your anger to more of a disappointment...BUT if you continue to practice the art of faking it until you make yourself truly feel it. You will go from anger to peace, instead of to disappointment almost instantly. Because you trained/coached yourself to change your thought process...
Remember a thought creates a feeling, which leads to an action. That simple. It may seem like it is too easy to work. But by "faking the feeling" you are not realizing you are shifting your thoughts to be more positive. And what did that thought and feeling create? An ACTION!!!! If you stop and read this a few times and truly remember to do this each time life isn't working for you. I PROMISE that you will become a happier person naturally without faking. And soon you will not need to remember the steps, it will come naturally...because you coached yourself to be happy just because.
So, the first few times you do this, you may feel weird about doing it. And try to fight it. But go with it. Saying to yourself...No, Coach Meme said that I HAVE to fake this feeling and I am going to do it. And follow through with it. You will be surprised that it really does work and it will transform your thought process and your LIFE. So I am asking that you trust me and just go along with it with an open heart and willingness to try. You want happiness and this is one of the ways to do it. Training yourself to react differently will change your life...Keep me posted on how it works! You can email or post a comment here! I love hearing your success stories!
I will share more of my easy OUT OF THE BOX tips for the next few weeks...so stay tuned and look for the heading, "A SCREAMING Easy Way To Be Happy Now!" These posts will be a part of my Life Coach Series...where I SHOW you how to put my ideas and thoughts I regularly post to ACTION! What is the use of the ideas and thoughts, if you don't know how to apply them! :) Always a FULL circle experience here! Thanks for reading and make today the day you decide to take your life back! And make it A Screaming Good Life!
Xo, Meme
You want to be happy NOW? Here is one of my easy and quick ways to be HAPPY now! Yes, this very second! So, here we go! Let's get happy now!
~FEELINGS~
You know those things that we feel. Sometimes they make you feel like you are on a roller coaster...Up, down and then around...Oh, and the BIG surprise loop in the middle! lol Yes, that roller coaster ride, we call FEELINGS! Feelings are more controllable than you think. With some life coaching, you can get a hold of those feelings and finally have the peace and happiness you have been trying to find so desperately.
Did you know feelings follow thoughts and then create an action? If you stop and think about what I just said for a minute...You have a thought and then a feeling emerges from that thought. That feeling then pushes you to do an action. Usually if you have a negative thought...you will feel sad, angry or disappointed and you will react negatively toward the situation/person. BUT did you know that if you changed your "feeling" by faking a feeling...It stops the negativity in its tracks? Stay with me here...With your thinking caps on...I will explain.
Here is how it works. Say you are angry with your child for not doing something he had promised to do. You would normally act upset, irritated and maybe even give a silent treatment. BUT what if you pretended that you were not upset & irritated...instead your words were thoughtful, loving and encouraging. It would instantly (yes instantly) soften your anger toward him/her. BECAUSE your thought had to change to be able to process that you were going to make yourself feel differently. You will then usually diminish your anger to more of a disappointment...BUT if you continue to practice the art of faking it until you make yourself truly feel it. You will go from anger to peace, instead of to disappointment almost instantly. Because you trained/coached yourself to change your thought process...
Remember a thought creates a feeling, which leads to an action. That simple. It may seem like it is too easy to work. But by "faking the feeling" you are not realizing you are shifting your thoughts to be more positive. And what did that thought and feeling create? An ACTION!!!! If you stop and read this a few times and truly remember to do this each time life isn't working for you. I PROMISE that you will become a happier person naturally without faking. And soon you will not need to remember the steps, it will come naturally...because you coached yourself to be happy just because.
So, the first few times you do this, you may feel weird about doing it. And try to fight it. But go with it. Saying to yourself...No, Coach Meme said that I HAVE to fake this feeling and I am going to do it. And follow through with it. You will be surprised that it really does work and it will transform your thought process and your LIFE. So I am asking that you trust me and just go along with it with an open heart and willingness to try. You want happiness and this is one of the ways to do it. Training yourself to react differently will change your life...Keep me posted on how it works! You can email or post a comment here! I love hearing your success stories!
I will share more of my easy OUT OF THE BOX tips for the next few weeks...so stay tuned and look for the heading, "A SCREAMING Easy Way To Be Happy Now!" These posts will be a part of my Life Coach Series...where I SHOW you how to put my ideas and thoughts I regularly post to ACTION! What is the use of the ideas and thoughts, if you don't know how to apply them! :) Always a FULL circle experience here! Thanks for reading and make today the day you decide to take your life back! And make it A Screaming Good Life!
Xo, Meme
Sunday, October 30, 2011
Words Hurt
Today something saddened me...I was flitting through the grocery store with a skip in my step...The fall air was crisp and everyone had beautiful, friendly smiles on their faces. I had small talk with a few of them about pumpkin carving, caramel apples and how beautiful the morning was...As I went around the corner, a young boy ran into me. The guardian yelled horrible words at him and looked at me to apologize and making sure to let me know that he was not her child. Like he wasn't good enough?
The boy looked sad and beaten down. My heart broke for him...I looked him in the eyes and made sure he knew it wasn't his fault and wished him a Happy Halloween and lots of candy...Making sure to not acknowledge the so called" guardian. I walked away saddened and helpless. I thought about things I could or should of said...I guess the only thing I can really do is pray that he be able to rise above the words and the abuse. And wish his little life the best...Remember words hurt and they can change the way the person (man, woman and child) thinks, acts and leads their lives. We all get upset from time to time, but there is always away to handle that anger...and words are not it! Repost this and let's spread the word that words are damaging and they hurt...This photo says it all...
Xo, Meme
Meme
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